I’ve been away…
One of the key things in business is to be consistent. I know that posting regular content is key, however, I also know that being able to follow your own advice, be your authentic self and maintaining self care is important, so why haven’t I been visible for a longer than usual period?
When it comes from nowhere
Why? We had the crappiest of all crappiest of all crappy news in December with my gorgeous brother in law , Ian being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer.
It was the biggest shocker he’s 42, fit and well and living his dream, in Hollywood.
Going into the Family Bubble
I’m doing my best supporting hubby Mark, the kids, his parents, and its not always wanted or needed (little miss fix it) and all the time my uncontrollable emotions are on absolute over drive.
My mum died of Lung cancer when I was 22, and she was 47. The triggers that were hit were immense, and I really didn’t see the connection at first to be honest. Completely different situation, different time, different circumstances.
Why do we feel the need for control?
The feeling of being unable to control or fix were at the height of everything. We get triggered, and sometimes we don’t know what those triggers are.
As you may know, I practice mindfulness which enables me to recognise my thoughts, sometimes in the moment and sometimes after a period of dealing with the emotional response those thoughts caused. This particular association with my mum took a while for me to spot.
How to recognise thoughts as thoughts, not truths
Mindfulness? This word can be viewed as a new age thing, the in thing, a buzz word.
What does Mindfulness ultimately allow you to do?
It enables you to recognise your thoughts as thoughts, and we them we can recognise them as thoughts we can see that we created them. We attached them to a situation which I’m itself is a neutral event.
What I work to do and teach is that these thoughts then create emotions and these emotions too frequently ignite a memory, often sub consciously. It’s finding them thats key.
Let me introduce Miss Catostrophe
She has been a huge part of my life, and for a long time I had no idea who she was or that she was even here.
She is the young girl and woman who believes that only bad things will happen, to someone you love. Not all the time, but if they are late calling, or didn’t do what thy said they would.
But, since being able to recognise her, things in life run easier. Of course it all hits the proverbial fan, of course my thought lead to feeling, which lead to behaviours and/or physical responses. The difference now is that I have a level of acceptance for all things, not accepting its OK, or being in any way indifferent, but accepting that this is how it is now, and this is how I feel.
Perhaps you have a Miss Catastrophe or an associate of hers.
Miss/Mr Unfair, Mr /Miss why should I (because other people don’t) Mr/Miss Failure.
Is it generalised?
It is related to weight loss?
Is it related to fertility?
Is it related to health?
Do you need help finding him / her?
Thought recognition was one of the most freeing things that happened to me, it changed my experience with Multiple Sclerosis and is one of the reasons its now benign, yes, that’s right benign.
It’s a huge part of the work I do with clients with the Fertility Rewire coaching programme.
When looking into all of the information available, searching for answers, causes of infertility, ways to improve fertility.
For a lot of people , when they find the information pertaining to diet change, lifestyle change, stress reduction, there remains that voice:
“why should I have to”
“Others don’t have to”
“what if it doesn’t work”
Working with client in thought recognition through our sessions is amazing and the results they have are incredible
Fertility issues, weight loss, stress and anxiety are amongst them,
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