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A LETTER FROM YOUR WOMB

September 27, 2023 by KatSte_Admin Leave a Comment

Hey, you up there, I need you to know that I am doing my absolute best. The fact that I haven’t been able to provide us with the baby we both crave is deeply upsetting to me as much as it is to you.

I really need us to be able to work together on this, but I get the vibe that you feel that I’m not working hard enough for you, that I’m working against you.

I hear your anguish when each month I shed my lining that I was trying to prepare for our babies nest. I feel your heartbreak when you hear that someone else is pregnant, and then the guilt that follows for feeling that way.

I sense how confused you are about all the information out there of different things you can do, and then I feel the unfairness of it all, because other people got pregnant without having to change anything, other people got pregnant who didn’t want to.

I feel every emotion, every muscle tightness and I hear your thoughts. ” I’m never going to get pregnant”, “this is too much to bear”

I can only work with what I’m given and I need to explain to you what it is that I need:

Good quality eggs – What you eat and the stress levels in your body lead to levels to inflammation and when these levels are high, the quality of eggs is affected. So even if a fertilised egg makes its way to me, we cant guarantee success. I care for it, I envelop it with love, but if the quality is poor, there is nothing I can do. I get thought that other people get pregnant who have poor diets, who drink even take drugs, so what should you? Half of our babies DNA is stored here, it codes the health for the future baby as well as looks and traits.
Perhaps we can look at reducing inflammatory foods such as sugar and processed foods and look at getting some good fats into us, avocado, fish oil…

if your response is why should I? we need to explore that thought too.

Its time for a Fertility Rewire

On a similar note, good quality sperm, this is a game of two halves. Having a good count is not the only thing that matters. The DNA for your future baby is here, it codes the future health of baby as well as looks and characteristics.

Balanced levels of hormones (oestrogen and progesterone primarily) – this works in a number of ways. There are occasions where the oestrogen is too high and that might be due to what you are eating, what chemicals we are exposed to are some examples . Sometimes its not really high its just that its a lot higher than the progesterone, so its not opposed, which is vital. There are so many reasons for this, inflammatory changes and conditions such as endometriosis and poly cystic ovary syndrome is an example, but the biggest reason is the levels if stress in your body.

Lets look into diet, reduce our chemical exposure and ways we can support the hormonal balance.

I know that there is an amazing 9often conflicting) lot of information out there, but we can get help with this
Lets support the liver as its having to process a lot,

Stress levels – As a result of this perceived threat (your body believes it is in mortal danger, that there are tigers coming at us from all directions), the object is preservation. You are not of course actually in mortal danger, but your body doesn’t know that. It responds to the chemical adrenaline, and that is being released so regularly at the moment that the danger threat is on red alert. Reproduction is not vital or even safe at this stage, so the pre cursor to progesterone is stolen from me to support the cortisol production needed. We are basically put into shut down.

Lets look at ways to do this. we might not be able to remove the causes of stress but we can help our body come up with a way to address it, to change the programme, to stop the cortisol stealing our goodies.

Can we do some reconnection? maybe visualise me receiving some healing energy, place you hands on your lower abdomen and connect with me.

Mindfulness is a good place to start, there are a lot of misconceptions about it, its not emptying your mind or sitting in a trance. Its not necessarily about relaxing, its about getting to a point where you can see that what enters your head is a thought, not a fact.
Self hypnosis can really help us connect. When you think of a happy time, what happens? you smile, I feel the oxytocin (happy hormone) too so I know its a good thing, and that was from just thinking about something, so how powerful can the mind be in other ways?
Knowing that our feelings come from thoughts is a revelation, especially when you realise that you are in control of your thoughts.

Its time for a fertility rewire
I’m feeling restricted – the time that you spend sitting throughout the day, your posture, your exercise routine (or not) is affecting the structures in the pelvis and its changing the space that I have. It sometimes means that I am pushed backwards or forwards which affects my blood and nerve supply and my ability to function.
Can we stand more perhaps, or stand up tall and take a walk near trees and nature?
Perhaps we could look into yoga or Pilates? I hear there are specific exercises that can give me more space

Perhaps Fertility Massage Therapy
I know that having to have sex, when its the right time is no fun, its changed hasn’t it? The presence of oxytocin will help conception and we release this when we are happy, when we are aroused too. Do you know when is the right time? sperm lives longer than the egg, so best to have it there ready and waiting when the egg is released
perhaps having sex for the sake of having sex, when we are not fertile could be fun? Returning to how things were?


And finally, can we get some help to support us in this? There is so much information out there, There wil be someone who can coach us through this. We are in this together, we want the same, lets do this

I love you,

Your womb xx

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WHAT IS A MINDFUL MENOPAUSE?

July 27, 2023 by KatSte_Admin Leave a Comment

What come to mind when you think of mindfulness? sitting in silence, emptying your mind? quiet meditation? Have you wondered can Mindfulness could ease the menopause? Can you have a mindful menopause?

When I say menopause, I’m talking peri menopause (the transition to menopause) and menopause (an bases of periods for 12 months)

MINDFULNESS

What actually is mindfulness? well its not emptying your mind because as Ruby Wax put so eloquently, if your mind was empty you’d be dead.

So mindfulness is not emptying your mind or entering so zen state where you transcend to an area of inner peace. It can actually be quite the opposite, and we know that this can be key to a mindful menopause.

Your mind has, based on studies 20,00 to 80-,00 thought a day! and many are the same thoughts you had yesterday and the day before and so on.

What mindfulness based practice does is allow you to notice the thoughts, and make a purposeful decision not to react to them, you let them pass. It’s not easy, particularly when you start and you may have jumped on to the thought and only realised later that you were in fact ‘hooked in”.

The important thing is that you noticed you were hooked and with a gentleness to yourself, because you did nothing wrong, you return to the intended focus.

So basically your mind wanders and you gently with intention, notice where it went, and this is the key part, and then bring it back to. the here and now.

The intended focus can be your breath, sensations in your body, but it can be the feeling of your feet on the ground, attention to this as you walk, it could be colouring in, it could be taking a shower, or cleaning your teeth. Yes, you see you don’t have to adopt the lotus position and sit in quiet stillness with attention only on your breath for 40 minutes (which of course you could if you want to).

I attended an 8 week mindfulness course some years ago and I’ll be honest it served me well, really well in terms of managing the anxiety associate with a health condition. But my daily practice slipped and I struggled to find a routine and the time.

My practice was reignited when I became a Mindfulness based Cognitive Therapy Teacher, bit my practice is intermittent.

As a result, I developed a much more adapted practice more akin to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and this is the framework that I share elements of with my clients now.

And I want to run you through the basics, more a more detailed explanation see the Book, The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris.

The title is key and based around the fact that we all want to be happy. Its a basic human instinct to avoid pain and seek pleasure, its innate and instinctive but we need both. You cannot know what one is without the other. But in the pursuit os happiness we repellants and fight against its opposite.

PAIN AND PLEASURE ARE BOTH IMPORTANT

You cannot be happy all the time, if that were the case you would be happy hearing about the sad and atrocious things that occur in the world on a daily basis. Pain is something we learn from, in both physical and emotional sense.

Back to the primal design. You’ve heard of fight or flight? But what is your current day fight or flight behaviour? In fight or flight, your primal brain is in play, survival is key, there a tiger! But todays tigers are different, still present and perhaps more so, they are fear, worry, anxiety, being late, an argument, judgement of others and more.

FIGHT OR FLIGHT AND THE PRIMAL BRAIN

Mindfulness allows us to step out of this primal brain, it allows this area to shrink and the human, thinking part to expand, and some amazing research has demonstrated this. It makes us over time, slower to ignite and apply rational thought not emotion.

Harris identifies these modern day fight or flight strategies as

FLIGHT STRATEGIES

Hiding/Escaping- perhaps you drop out of a course or cancel a social event to avoid any feelings of anxiety
Distraction- You distract from those unwanted feeling by focusing on something else: smoking, eating, shopping, watch TV all night to ‘keep your mind off it”
Zoning Out/Numbing -Trying to cut off from these thoughts: medication, alcohol, drugs or sleeping or literally zoning out and staring at walls

FIGHT STRATEGIES

Suppression – in effect pushing away either from your mind or deep down inside
Arguing – you are really having in an internal argument: “You’re no Good” ” yes I am, look at what Ive done and can do”. Or you could be arguing against. protesting in effect.
Taking Charge – Telling yourself to “snap out of it” or “calm down”, or forcing yourself to be happy, often when you say other people are worse off than me, I should be happy.
Self Bullying – starting to call yourself names, like loser or ‘stupid’, blaming yourself are key traits here
Take a moment and consider these, where do you sit? It may not be the same place for all uncomfortable thoughts, experiences or emotions. you can flip about them. It could vary depending on the situation.

This applies to all worry and anxiety and we know this is heightened in the peri menopause particularly. This is why so many women are put on anti depressants. It is this stress, this high level of stress hormone taht is aggravating menopause symptoms.

So reducing this with mindfulness based strategies is key

What happens when you experience menopause symptoms? A hot flush for example.

HOW TO HAVE A MINDFUL MENOPAUSE

Here are some strategies you can use

Take ten slow deep breaths: focus on the rise and fall off your belly. Let thoughts and images come and go, pretty much in the background. It’s important to acknowledge any new thoughts that appear, almost as if you are nodding recognition to someone as you pass, not jumping into interaction. Harris suggests and this is something I do, that you may say to yourself ‘thinking’ I extending this and may differentiate, ‘planning’ worrying’ etc.tart with 10 and then if it feels comfortable keep increasing in sets of 10.

Acceptance: This can be confused a little, you are not accepting a situation but you are accepting that you are having the thoughts you are having about it. You are stepping into the observing self. when the thoughts come into your mind throughout the day, I’m no good, This is rubbish, I’ll be …, say to yourself, “Here is the thought that” . Distance even further with “I notice I am have the thought that I am….” this distances it and tells your brain its a thought not real.

Bring an awareness to the physical: When you notice where you feel emotions, you can start t recognise the thoughts coming’s. You can do a body scan exercise for 20-40 minutes, or you can sit and in abut 10-20 seconds. Notice does not mean assess or analyse: Notice your feet, notice the position of your legs, notice your posture, notice you breathing, notice where your arms are, notice what sensations you have in your neck and shoulders, notice you body temperature (and be careful to stay on nothing here), notice the air on your skin, scan your body head to tow and notice any tension or peohapsstiffness, scan again and notice any uncomfortable feelings. this brings in awareness, awareness.

Take a mindful walk: notice the feeling on your feet on the ground, the ground and the surroundings, notice. if you find yourself making an opinion or, your mind wanders, notice where it went and say Thanks Mind, and bring your attention back to your feet. I love doing this barefoot in the grass.

So these are steps, baby steps towards a more mindful menopause. If you want to know more or want support, why not book a discovery call with me.

Filed Under: Menopause

CHEMICAL FREE CLEANING FOR HORMONE SUPPORT

June 27, 2023 by KatSte_Admin Leave a Comment

Chemical Free Cleaning for Hormone support is important everyone. But let’s look at why?

I posted on Fertility Rewire about how Chemicals in beauty products and household cleaning agents hugely disrupt reproductive hormones.

I spoke about how it can affect Fertility, but it can affect anybody male and female at any age. In utero and even at preconception! This is something I share will all my clients and it’s something relevant to me at the moment as I approach 50. Why? because it can have a huge effect on Hormones in the peri menopause and menopause.

Some studies have suggested that exposure to the big hormone disrupters Parabens and Phthalates can cause an early menopause. But whenever you start to experience symptoms, reducing your use can have a huge improvement to your your overall.

I started to experience some peri menopausal symptoms a few years ago, irregular cycles, heavy periods, very swollen and tender breasts, anxiety, low mood, to be honest down right rubbish!

Through the changes I have made to diet, exposure to oestrogenic chemicals, use of oils and supplements, I have had an amazing change to my symptoms. My menstrual cycle has returned to 28 days, periods no longer heavy or clots, and my anxiety very much reduced

CLEANING PRODUCTS

Chemical Free Cleaning for Hormone Support
I started to try to buy Paraben and Phthalate free cleaning agents, but actually when you really start to look into it, even the ones you expect to be free or sound as thought they are, actually aren’t free of these hormone disrupting chemicals. It was so confusing.

I had started to use essential oils as many of you know, but as well as those for the physical and emotional effects, I then started to use then in my DIY household cleaners and beauty products.

One of the most important things I had to consider was the purity of the oils themselves. Did you know that there is no regulatory body for essential oils?

That anyone can say that the oil is pure, organic or therapeutic grade. So using such oils as a ‘natural’ alternative, I could still be using synthetics?

I looked into this and that when I came across doTERRA. The Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade Testing assured me of not only the being free from contaminants, the therapeutic active compound within the oils was at a high percentage.

If you had told me I would be making my own cleaning products a few years ago, I would have laughed loudly and declared that you would want me to dress in hemp and walk barefoot. Actually I often do walk barefoot, but that’s another story.

Packaging is another consideration, I use glass containers, so no risk of plastic chemical contamination and all completely natural and as they look so good, I store them on s shelf, not hidden in a cupboard!

Let me share with you some of my recipes

LAUNDRY DETERGENT

2 cups hot water
1 cup bicarb of soda
1/3 cup Salt
1 cup Castile Soap
10 drops Lavender Essential Oil
5 drops Melaleuca Essential Oil
You do need to shake well before use, due the ingredients separating. This is because there are no chemicals or bonding agents.

I use approx 1/4 cup or less with each wash.

FABRIC CONDITIONER

500mls white vinegar
6 drops lemongrass essential oil
I use a glass pop top bottle for this, and it sounds so unlike the highly fragranced manufactured conditioners. But it works really well.

For more information on how you an get hold of these incredible oils wholesale, see here

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WHY IT MAY NOT BE AN MS RELAPSE

June 27, 2023 by KatSte_Admin Leave a Comment

AUTO IMMUNE FATIGUE

I’m surprised, but I was fooled, so this is a cautionary tale. Don’t be fooled by your fatigue, It may not be what you think. I thought I was having an MS relapse.

This isn’t denial or false hope (which I’ve been accused of, I want to explain how I was fooled into thinking it was an MS relapse.

If you have fatigue, associated with an auto immune fatigue, you know how debilitating it is. How at times, walking seems like the hardest thing. The your cognition is affected so much that you have to concentrate hard on the littlest of tasks.

THE MS BOX

I have been put in the MS box by my GP, hospital, MS nurse and other people with MS at times. You may have experienced the same. Maybe with MS, or fibromyalgia or Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. The, “there’s nothing we can do box”.

Have you been put in your diagnosis box? Beware, it can even fool you.

I have fought and fought against my label, not willing to accept that every single thing I experience is down to MS. It’s tricky of course because MS is so encompassing of so many symptoms. At the moment I’m in 2 boxes, MS and the peri-menopause and it appears that the combination of the 2 covers everything!!

GETTING MY MS TO SLEEP

I have, as you may or not know, managed to get my MS to sleep, I did this Through mindset, lifestyle and diet.

I don’t know if it has gone, only an MRI would confirm this, but it slumbers on with no effect on me on a day to day basis if I keep it sleepy and comfortable. It’s now classed as Benign.

It may not be an MS relapse
How? well, it wasn’t easy but after a whole heap of overwhelm and trying absolutely everything, I settled into giving my body what it needed, based on its original design, and that is Safety and Sustenance.

I eat a mostly anti inflammatory diet and keep inflammatory food to a minimum. I take supplements, I exercise moderately and I have reduced stress, well when I say reduced. I have taken steps to reduce or at least recognise my triggers, or tigers if you like. I am triggered less and am a more mindful person I guess.

I can recognise that most of my worries are infact thoughts, thoughts that I control.

DID I WAKE THE TIGER?

So, since February 2019, I’ve felt like crap, so tired. We return from a trip to the US and initially I thought that the jet lag was taking a while to go. But, it didn’t. But, this fatigue didn’t feel like the MS fatigue of old, this was different. But still day to day living has been hard. Really hard.

I thought I had woken the tiger, I had some pins and needles too. So I dug deep and tried to get back on track. I wasn’t exercising as I was so exhausted, I wondered if the heat was having an effect as it can with MS. Constantly searching for reasons and it took me back to when I was diagnosed. Searching for explanations, causes and cures.

Eventually, after having had a very sore mouth for months, which I thought was down to my night time retainers (you have a glam image in your head now right?), the orthodontist looked at my tongue and suggested I may be anaemic.

So, I requested a blood test to rule it out and I am severely low on iron, not a little low, severely low! And this is so very common in the peri menopause, especially in the first stage when Oestrogen is in dominance, I knew that, but I was blinkered by my fear that it was the MS!

I PUT MYSELF IN THE BOX!

I spent so long trying to find other reasons for symptoms in the past, but this time, I missed this completely. I thought things were worsening and they weren’t. I mentioned my tiredness at a routine visit and of course was put in the MS box, but when the pins and needles started, I guessed they must be right.

My ‘tiger taming’ practice enables me (in the main) to accept the feelings that I have for what they are: Feelings. And this has served me well. I have been able to keep a sense of calm, able to be in the present and open to what is around me.

DID MY ‘ACCEPTANCE PRACTICE’ MAKE ME DROP THE BALL?

Acceptance practice is a huge part of the ‘tiger taming’, accepting the thoughts as thoughts that is. Did this make me lose the big picture? Was I so Ok with how things unfold that I dropped the ball?

I had actually, developed a sense of complacency and acceptance of something that actually wasn’t there. Unlike the former me and the me that advises my clients, I had only gone and put myself myself in the box.

Through my fatigue, my mood dropped, my level of self care with it. I had a real sense of being defeated, which surprised me.

LESSON LEARNED

What have I learned?

Perhaps, I could have listened to my gut, realised that this tiredness was different.

I picked myself up, and I’ll admit it was a slow process and I am now feeling stronger, less tired after 2 months of iron therapy. I’m taking each day at a time, setting no big goals and taking care of me.

I’m back to my self care and essential oil routine, diet and as energy allows the exercise will come.

I think perhaps most importantly, there’s no need for self recrimination, no need for “I should have’s”, it is what it is, and the MS tiger still sleeps. It’s just that I awoke a whole heap of others!

I’ll keep you posted..

If you want to know more about my ‘Tiger Taming’ programme, a way to manage negative thoughts and feelings, stress worry and anxiety or want to have a hormonal ‘check up’, to find out what imbalances are at play and what you can do,’ You can book a free call

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THOUGHT RECOGNITION: HOW TO REDUCE STRESS AND ANXIETY.

March 27, 2023 by KatSte_Admin Leave a Comment

I’VE BEEN AWAY…

One of the key things in business is to be consistent. I know that posting regular content is key, however, I also know that being able to follow your own advice, be your authentic self and maintaining self care is important, so why haven’t I been visible for a longer than usual period?

WHEN IT COMES FROM NOWHERE

Why? We had the crappiest of all crappiest of all crappy news in December with my gorgeous brother in law , Ian being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer.

It was the biggest shocker he’s 42, fit and well and living his dream, in Hollywood.

GOING INTO THE FAMILY BUBBLE

I’m doing my best supporting hubby Mark, the kids, his parents, and its not always wanted or needed (little miss fix it) and all the time my uncontrollable emotions are on absolute over drive.

My mum died of Lung cancer when I was 22, and she was 47. The triggers that were hit were immense, and I really didn’t see the connection at first to be honest. Completely different situation, different time, different circumstances.

WHY DO WE FEEL THE NEED FOR CONTROL?

The feeling of being unable to control or fix were at the height of everything. We get triggered, and sometimes we don’t know what those triggers are.

As you may know, I practice mindfulness which enables me to recognise my thoughts, sometimes in the moment and sometimes after a period of dealing with the emotional response those thoughts caused. This particular association with my mum took a while for me to spot.

HOW TO RECOGNISE THOUGHTS AS THOUGHTS, NOT TRUTHS

Mindfulness? This word can be viewed as a new age thing, the in thing, a buzz word.

What does Mindfulness ultimately allow you to do? ​

It enables you to recognise your thoughts as thoughts, and we them we can recognise them as thoughts we can see that we created them. We attached them to a situation which I’m itself is a neutral event.

What I work to do and teach is that these thoughts then create emotions and these emotions too frequently ignite a memory, often sub consciously. It’s finding them thats key.

LET ME INTRODUCE MISS CATOSTROPHE

She has been a huge part of my life, and for a long time I had no idea who she was or that she was even here.

She is the young girl and woman who believes that only bad things will happen, to someone you love. Not all the time, but if they are late calling, or didn’t do what thy said they would.

But, since being able to recognise her, things in life run easier. Of course it all hits the proverbial fan, of course my thought lead to feeling, which lead to behaviours and/or physical responses. The difference now is that I have a level of acceptance for all things, not accepting its OK, or being in any way indifferent, but accepting that this is how it is now, and this is how I feel.

PERHAPS YOU HAVE A MISS CATASTROPHE OR AN ASSOCIATE OF HERS.

Miss/Mr Unfair, Mr /Miss why should I (because other people don’t) Mr/Miss Failure.

Is it generalised?

It is related to weight loss?

Is it related to fertility?

Is it related to health?

Do you need help finding him / her?

Thought recognition was one of the most freeing things that happened to me, it changed my experience with Multiple Sclerosis and is one of the reasons its now benign, yes, that’s right benign.

It’s a huge part of the work I do with clients with the Fertility Rewire coaching programme.

When looking into all of the information available, searching for answers, causes of infertility, ways to improve fertility.

For a lot of people , when they find the information pertaining to diet change, lifestyle change, stress reduction, there remains that voice:

“why should I have to”

“Others don’t have to”

“what if it doesn’t work”

Working with client in thought recognition through our sessions is amazing and the results they have are incredible

Fertility issues, weight loss, stress and anxiety are amongst them,

do you want to know more about what I do? Lets chat…

Perhaps you know someone who does, then please share my post

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I’m dreaming of a calm Christmas

December 27, 2022 by KatSte_Admin Leave a Comment

ITS NOT FAR AWAY IS IT REALLY? ARE YOU STARTING TO FEEL EMOTIONS RISING?

I used to hate Christmas, it represented what I didn’t have, and what EVERYBODY ELSE had. Looking back, everybody else didn’t have it at all. Because I had experienced loss at a young age, a fairy tale image of how Christmas would be developed year on year. It was akin to the Partridge family (if you’re too young, google it!).

The energy I put into avoiding my feeling must have been exhausting!

I love Christmas now, I truly do, but sometimes in the past the day itself could cause my stress levels to rise and my patience to wain.

PERHAPS YOU ARE DREADING CHRISTMAS.

There are lots of reasons why people dread christmas and none are more significant than anybody else’s, because it is what is happening to YOU that is key, or should I say how you are experiencing what you perceive is happening to you. Deep eh?

If you are experiencing fertility issues or experienced miscarriage or loss it can be a time of sadness for the lack of the christmas you had hoped for; one without the baby or child you had yearned for.

If you are experiencing health challenges, such as Fibromyalgia, Multiple Sclerosis, Chronic Fatigue or other debilitating inflammatory disease, you may think of a time when things were not so hard, a time where energy was just there.

Some of you may know that there will be emotional challenges, this may be due to loss, fertility, illness, depression, stress and anxiety.

It doesn’t have to be “big” (this is when we compare our situation to others who have it worse, or who we believe have it worse). Its as big as it is to you and its important to acknowledge how you are feeling. It may be that you are spending time with family and expectations and personalities may affect your mood and coping strategies.

TIPS FOR A CALMER CHRISTMAS

TREAT YOURSELF AS A FRIEND

Christmas is a time of Peace, Joy and Love is it not? Do you know who needs these more and will be last on the list? Of course, its you..

I will often say to clients, what would you say to a friend who just said that to you? Now try to say that to yourself, with feeling and compassion, as though you are that friend.

THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS

I think a lot of us are very hard on ourselves. One of the things we learn in Mindfulness is that thoughts are not facts. Getting to a point where you can recognise thoughts is fantastic, being able to see that a thought is not a fact is a powerful place to be, but not always easy. Thoughts such as I’m not good enough, I always do it wrong, I’m “insert your own feeling”

What we can learn in mindfulness, “here is the thought that…:

I’m not good enough”
I always do it wrong”
insert your own thought…
CHANGE “SHOULD” TO “COULD”

One of the things I encourage myself, family and clients to do is replace the word “should” with “could”. This reframe can have powerful effects, and can free us from guilt and shame.

“I should get up now” becomes “I could get up now”

“I should clean the house” becomes ” I could clean the house”

so, you

could have a good time
could enjoy this
could stop thinking about x.
Allowing yourself this ‘choice’ rather than an order is a powerful tool and its a great one to try.

Relaxation techniques

An often used self hypnosis/relaxation technique is to imagine yourself in a special place, where no one needs anything from you, no one wants anything fromyou and there are no expectations. If you would be interested to hear more about this, get in touch

SUPPORT YOUR PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL MOOD NATURALLY

I like science, I like facts, Chemistry and research. This allows me to be an essential oil junkie, there is no other description really. I have never felt better or more in control of my own health as I do now. I use doTERRA essential oils, due to the certified pure therapeutic grade.

My top christmas oils are:

BALANCE

Promotes a whole-body sense of relaxation
May help ease anxious feelings
Evokes feelings of tranquility and balance
Uses

Begin your day by putting Balance on the bottom of your feet to promote feelings of calmness and tranquility throughout the day.
Balance is a great oil blend to use during an AromaTouch® Hand Massage.
Apply to your wrists or neck to help ease anxious feelings.
Diffuse in your car during road trips to create a calming, soothing environment.
WILD ORANGE

a powerful cleanser and purifying agent
Uplifting to the mind and body
Uses

Use in an all-purpose spray to cleanse and purify surfaces.
Diffuse to uplift mood and energy levels and to freshen the air.
For an energising boost, dispense one to two drops in the palm of your hand along with equal parts Peppermint and Frankincense. Rub palms together and inhale deeply from palms, then rub on the back of neck

LAVENDER

Soothes occasional skin irritations
May help reduces anxious feelings and promotes peaceful sleep
May help ease feelings of tension.
Uses

Add a few drops of Lavender to pillows, bedding, or bottoms of feet at bedtime.
Keep a bottle of Lavender on hand to soothe occasional skin irritations.
Freshen your linen closet, mattress, car, or the air by combining Lavender with water in a spray bottle
Use in cooking to soften citrus flavours and add a flavourful twist to marinades, baked goods, and desserts.

FRANKINCENSE

Supports healthy cellular function
Aroma promotes feelings of relaxation
Helps reduce the appearance of skin imperfections when applied topically
Supports healthy immune, nervous, and digestive function
Uses

Apply topically to help reduce the appearance of skin imperfections.
Can be applied to the bottoms of feet to promote feelings of relaxation and to balance mood.
Take one to two drops in a veggie capsule to support healthy cellular function. (applies to doTERRA oils due to purity)

HOLIDAY PEACE

Calms and soothes mood
Cleanses and freshens the air
Adds a peaceful holiday aroma to any room or environment
Uses

Diffuse to uplift mood and create a serene atmosphere during the busy holiday season
Apply one to two drops to a dolomite or clay ornament to add a touch of festive spirit to the home
Create a spritzer with a few drops of Holiday Peace and mist your holiday décor for a grounding, woodsy scent
Please do get in touch if you would like to find out more….

Relax, be in the moment and Breathe….

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